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Title: Protecting Yourself Online
Description: The ultimate guide for your safety!


Leema - January 31, 2006 07:45 AM (GMT)
I'm aware that many of the indiviudals on this forum are quite young, and so thought it was very important that members learn how to protect themselves online.

Don't tell anyone your name online!
Once someone knows your full, true name, they can look you up on Google or even the YellowPages and find where you live. Don't doubt a online predator's skill. When people ask you for your name, ask yourself why they want to know. It may be best to not talk to them in the first place. Your email shouldn't contain your name, although when applying for colleges and stuff, it's useful, so you should find a way to get either a new email address or a forwarding address (if anyone needs one, Misled can get you one for free). Also make sure that when you send an e-mail, the sender doesn't come up as your name!

Don't tell anyone exactly where you live!
This is particularly important if you live in a small or unpopulated area! Give very general information on where you live - your state, a nearby city - you may even just want to say 'The eastern coast of the USA'! For example, I say I live in Adelaide - I don't. Misled says she lives in San Francisco - she doesn't. Also, don't use your own zip code on websites! Find another zip code to punch into websites so no one knows the suburb you live in.

Google yourself!
Go to google.com, type in your phone number, and see if your name comes up. If it does, find how to unregister yourself (I can't remember how I did it, but I did). Google yourself and your family. If any results come up that will show people something into your personal life they shouldn't know (schools, extracurriculars, etc), ask them to take it off, even if you have a common name.

Be careful who you link!
If you're protecting yourself online, it can be blown if your friends are not equally careful. Be careful where you link people. If you show someone your livejournal, myspace, etc, be sure you haven't used your real name, school name, or the names of your friends - nor that your friends have about you! This is going to annoy a lot of people, but if you're truly worried and concerned for your well being, don't use myspace, unless you and your friends can lie about your locations. Even then, unless your friend is as concerned as you are about being found, they'll probably supply a great hint as to your own location.

QUOTE (http://www.sentinelandenterprise.com/local/ci_3429572)
...an 18-year-old Rhode Island man showed up unexpectedly at Lunenburg High School after meeting a female student there on MySpace.com. The man entered LHS with the intention of leaving the student, 15, a message at her locker, he told police. School officials told him he was trespassing and made him leave the property..
QUOTE (http://www.blogsafety.com/teenmenu.htm)
I am a middle-aged man with a 21 year old daughter and 19 year old son and I have no interest in meeting teenage girls. But for those who do, there is now a place on the web that makes it very easy.

I wouldn’t be writing this column if I thought I were spilling secrets or in any way aiding adults who have an inappropriate interest in teens but, unfortunately, predators tend to be very good at what they do and most of them probably already know about what I’m about to tell you.

The sad fact is that it is now very easy to find teenage victims in your community, thanks to an online social networking service called MySpace.com. This advertising-supported site, which was acquired last year by Rupert Murdoch’s News Corporation, presents a veritable smorgasbord of teenagers, organized by community and high school.  If you know the name of your local school and the sex and age of teens you’re seeking, you can find them on MySpace.  What’s more, in most cases, you can find pictures, names and photos of their friends; details about where they were born; what they like; and where they hang out.  In many cases, you can also find their full names and cell phone numbers.

As an experiment, I used the site’s search function to look for 16- and 17-year-old “women” who attend the high school near where I live  -- where my kids went to school. Within seconds, I was presented with a list of 198 girls who were registered on the service. Including boys, there were a total of 577 listings for “current students” which represents about a third of the school’s student body.

The search function allows you to specify age – starting at 16. MySpace’s terms of service say that it’s open to people 14 or older, but there is no age verification process to prevent younger kids from setting up an account by lying about their date of birth.

One of the girls, who is 16, has a sexually suggestive word as part of her user name.  Thanks to MySpace, I have a pretty complete picture of her life. I know the day she was born, the hospital she was born in, her full name, where she goes to school, what she likes to eat, what time she goes to bed at night and her favorite fast-food restaurant. She gets along with her parents “sometimes.” In the past month she says she has consumed alcohol, eaten sushi, been to a mall, and gone “skinny dipping.”  She says she has shoplifted at least once, wants to be a lawyer and would like to visit Egypt.  Information like this, which used to take predators months  to extract from a child can -- in the wrong hands -- be skillfully used to help win a child's confidence.

Thanks to several pictures on her site, I also know exactly what she looks like and have seen pictures of many of her friends and am able to access her friends' profiles as well.  This girl lives within a few miles of my house.  Some of the pictures were clearly taken at the local high school.

With information like this, it would be pretty easy for someone with bad intentions to locate this girl.  Then the question is what might happen.  Hopefully, the young lady would have the sense to avoid the person, but armed with enough information, predators can be very good at persuading would-be victims to comply with their wishes.

This is not to say that kids should necessarily avoid using MySpace or other social networking sites. These sites have some very positive attributes, including developing communications skills and, in some cases enhancing self-esteem.  But they should by common sense safety rules, including not giving out personally identifiable information. Unfortunately, many teens don’t see the danger.


Picture considerations:
When you upload pictures online, don't put your name or anything personal as the name of the file. Make sure there is nothing identifying about your location in the picture (unless, perhaps, if it's not your hometown).

Consider who you're talking to.
When you meet someone online, and they tell you their name and location, google them. Make sure their story is consistent, and even if it is, you should still be careful. No matter who they are, especially if they're over 18, chances are they're online somewhere. Ask yourself why this person is interested in talking to you.
Never believe you know someone you met online. People are very different in RL, and chances are you are too. You behave differently toward people when you see them, and a lot of people who are like demi-gods to you online are usually losers in RL.


A pledge for you to take in regard to your activities online.
QUOTE (http://www.safekids.com/kidsrules.htm)
1. I will not give out personal information such as my address, telephone number, parents’ work address/telephone number, or the name and location of my school without my parents’ permission.

2. I will tell my parents right away if I come across any information that makes me feel uncomfortable.

3. I will never agree to get together with someone I "meet" online without first checking with my parents. If my parents agree to the meeting, I will be sure that it is in a public place and bring my mother or father along.

4. I will never send a person my picture or anything else without first checking with my parents.

5. I will not respond to any messages that are mean or in any way make me feel uncomfortable. It is not my fault if I get a message like that. If I do I will tell my parents right away so that they can contact the service provider.

6. I will talk with my parents so that we can set up rules for going online. We will decide upon the time of day that I can be online, the length of time I can be online and appropriate areas for me to visit. I will not access other areas or break these rules without their permission.



Basically, be sensible! If you ever feel uncomfortable, remove your information or block the individual you're talking to. Don't tell anyone information that can identify you. Don't assume that just because other people are doing it, you can too!


Most of this was written by Misled. :bow:


Please do not respond to this thread with "I do xxx and I haven't been attacked". Not everyone who 'breaks' these guidelines are going to encounter a problem, but it just makes them at higher risk of encountering danger.

figure eight - February 12, 2007 12:17 AM (GMT)
well said! -claps-

:clap: :bow:

gracie - April 3, 2007 05:53 AM (GMT)
errr... almost all of these rules have been broken on here. (post your house, post pictures of yourself, HMF meets, etc.) But anyway!

FRACTURED VANITY - April 3, 2007 05:54 AM (GMT)

wow, ummm you must have a lot of time on your hands.
but i guess thanks for making that? i'm sure it'll be a help in the future.

Leema - April 3, 2007 06:05 AM (GMT)
I must've had a lot of time on my hands about a year ago. ;) I'd kill for that now.

rouie - August 16, 2007 12:04 AM (GMT)
QUOTE (gracie @ Apr 3 2007, 12:53 AM)
errr... almost all of these rules have been broken on here. (post your house, post pictures of yourself, HMF meets, etc.) But anyway!

:y:

salt n' pepper - August 20, 2007 12:16 PM (GMT)
leema, that's awesome.

i think i need to send some of my friends from school here.
i'm a bit scared of things like that,
as i had a friend taken a few years ago, because of things posted on the internet.


EVERYONE should know this.
and at least know not to give out their address or full name or number.

T h o w r a - December 27, 2007 10:39 AM (GMT)
That is a really good guide :y: Thanks :)

JACina boxx - December 29, 2007 01:43 AM (GMT)
thats great! oh god, my friend gave her address to what she thought was a 17 y/o 'cute boy' on myspace. he showed up and ended up being a 36 y/o man. Her uncle freaked and called the cops. He family banned her from myspace now, thank god.

SENNA. - December 29, 2007 01:58 AM (GMT)
QUOTE (JACina boxx @ Dec 28 2007, 07:43 PM)
thats great! oh god, my friend gave her address to what she thought was a 17 y/o 'cute boy' on myspace. he showed up and ended up being a 36 y/o man. Her uncle freaked and called the cops. He family banned her from myspace now, thank god.

omg O.O creepy.

T h o w r a - March 31, 2008 05:01 AM (GMT)
Wow thats really creepy! Thank god your friend wasn't abducted or anything and she is now banned from myspace!




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